Over the years I’ve had quite a few jobs. Some were labor intensive and some required high organizational skills. Regardless of the position, I always asked a lot of questions during the interview. How many hours per week would I have to work? What was the detail and level of responsibilities required? How much time off would I get? And so on. It’s funny though, I didn’t ask any questions about the most important job I would ever have, Motherhood.
It seemed a natural progression in my relationship with Larry for us to have kids. As far as I was concerned the more the merrier! I had visions of Larry and I raising our children, guiding them effortlessly through each stage until they reached adulthood. Then Larry and I would spend our retired years traveling, taking turns visiting our kids and grandkids and simply enjoying reconnecting as a couple without kids at home.
We all know that’s not how it unfolded for Larry and me. Unfortunately, I’m not the only widow out there. Unfortunately, there are a lot of single moms due to divorce as well. None of us, that I know at least, chose the path of motherhood with hopes of being a single parent one day. But I’ve learned I don’t have to go it alone, thank goodness for my girlfriends!
We’ve spent many evenings sharing our experience of motherhood. It doesn’t matter if you are single or have a partner, one thing we can all agree on is that raising kids is hard!
Yet, despite the ups and downs and the hardships I’ve faced over the years, I’m still over the moon with being a mom. I’ll take all the tears, disappointments and struggles along with the laughter, joy and accomplishments because I’ve learned that’s what motherhood is all about.
Motherhood is not about achieving perfection: it’s all about appreciating and finding beauty in the imperfections.
And once I became a mother, boy did I appreciate my own mom so much more!
I’m so grateful I had my mother by my side to teach me and prepare me for my greatest role in life: motherhood.
By showering me with unconditional love, my mother taught me how to love my children unconditionally.
By showing compassion when I was sad or hurt, I learned how to be compassionate to others.
In giving she taught me how to give. And there were many times I know she sacrificed or did without so she could give more to her children.
She has been and always will be the biggest advocate for any of her children. If you don’t advocate for your child, who will?
I’m fortunate my mom is still here with me and my boys.
I know not everyone can say the same.
I can only hope and pray that if your mother has already passed on you have many wonderful memories to draw from.
My heart also breaks for the mom’s who have lost a child. A few years ago, I spoke with a mom whose daughter passed away when she was three. She was born with Down’s Syndrome and died from complications due to leukemia. As Mother’s Day approached, she shared with me that she dreaded the day. She was very grateful for her living children, but without her little girl, Mother’s Day would never be the same for her.
So, I pray that all the moms who have experienced the death of a child be given the space and respect to do whatever she wants on Sunday. Whether she chooses to celebrate the day is entirely up to her. It’s still HER day.
I would like to take this opportunity to wish my mother and ALL the moms out there a VERY Happy Mother’s Day.
P.S. My dogs are my babies just as much as my boys, so Happy Mother’s Day to all the Pet Mom’s!